Discussions with Joshy have been about the effectiveness of a females influence on the spanking process. His mommy and grand mommy defer to dad. He said. I can't wait til I am the boss can whip whomever I want. His behavior said this. Evidently he gets the impression that this is the easiest of the jobs.
Perhaps that overused phrase that his is going to hurt me more than it hurts you, wasn't really a lie. Perhaps it was giving the correct impression that it isn't as easy as it looks to decide which spankings to give and when to show mercy. The fact that parents live under authority has not sunk in to his ambitious little mind. He said I want to be the one to spank everybody in so many words.
Anger that we must submit to authority is normal and more and more prevalent as we socialize in a world where most children don't live under authority at all. Who do mom and dad answer to? That is the most important lesson to teach to young minds who wonder why do they have to live under authority?
Why indeed? Fathers provoke not! Means that we must analyze the culture as well as the environments we place our children and explain some of the disparities that they see. Scripture answers these quandaries. We would emphasize the loving part of the verse about sap kings so that they would be as convinced of Gods intention for these spankings as we were. The speed with which they were thrust into a secular anti family educational environment didn't give us the opportunity to pick up the pieces of some of the anger and confusion that erupted in our change of pace. Dad was the boss and mom was the educator. And then they were couped up in pens with rabble rousers where there was no instruction and no discipline. That is what happens when you try to follow Jesus in rearing your children. That is what they saw. The little ones who were raised in the system completely have no spiritual bias whatsoever. That is sad!
Engaging our children on their perceptions of the discipline isn't soft. It is amazingly empowering. The image of my dear child in thought Horatio Nelson going to get the birch rod for his spanking and knowing that his infraction would merit just that, wasn't just for past generations it is what causes the logical portion of the mind to become empowered. Here this young genius is exploring his mind to find a world where he can be king.
Isn't that amazing. I am it in yet, but when I overthrow my father you will be the first one I spank, Mrs. Jayne. I have been on that list for my own children and that is the best place to be, in my estimations. It mean. It means that I represent the wall of right and wrong that he must knock down to get to do just what he wants. I like representing that for him in his conscience. or consciousness... i am sorry for the mommy who never gets to play that pretend role with her children.
